I’m starting a new series called Things I’ve Learned Thursdays which will feature things that I’ve learned along this crazy adventure being a twin mom. I decided to do this because when I was searching to read about life with twins, not many blogs exist about it. Maybe its because you never have time. I mean NEVER have time.
So. I’ve been a twin mom for the last 12 weeks. My sweet babies will be 3 months old on Sunday. I mean… when did that happen??? In the last 12 weeks, I’ve learned A LOT about being a twin mom (and a mom in general) and I thought I’d share my experiences. I’m obviously no expert, but my kids are still alive! I also think that sharing helps other people out–all I wanted to read about when I was pregnant was other people’s experiences as a twin mom. So I’m sharing mine.
Birth Plans. Is this a new fangled thing or something that women have been creating for years? Some how I feel like birth plans came to be around the same time Pinterest came into existence. Probably not, but they are popular on Pinterest so there’s that.
When I was about 30 weeks pregnant, I found several different birth plans that people had posted on different blogs, printed them off and cut and pasted together the parts of the plans that I liked and that I knew where going to applicable to twins. BECAUSE TWINS CHANGE THINGS. Here is a short and sweet version of my plan:
- natural birth
- delayed cord clamping
- immediate skin to skin (if not with me, than with my husband)
- immediate attempts to breastfeed
- soothing music playing
- little to no drugs
- give all vaccinations (please don’t shoot me over this one!!!)
- no formula
I was delusional. Because a birth plan is exactly that a plan. And plans change. In reality, things looked like this:
- emergency c-section
- cords clamped immediately by the OB (my husband did not want this opportunity–he’s squeamish)
- I got to hold babies for about a minute a piece and they were both bundled in blankets
- Because of health problems due to being born 5 weeks early, they were given sugar water IVs for nutrition for the first 2 days
- There was chatter in the operating room instead of music (but that’s okay because my OB was able to keep us distracted while he worked)
- ALL the drugs–I had a spinal, pain medicine, nausea meds, and benadryl.
- They did get the schedule vaccinations like I wanted. (Like I said–don’t shoot me!)
- Formula was given because I struggled to produce breast milk from a pump and well… FED IS BEST.
In the end, the plan didn’t matter. Being flexible mattered and that’s what got my babies here safe and sound, and that is all that mattered.
Did you have a birth plan? Did it go according to plan?